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I remembered the old proverb about "raising up a child in the
way that he should go." This was a valuable lesson for me to learn.
This was about me allowing his personality to flourish and me
not making him feel unaccepted because he didn't follow my path.
Adam was quite popular in elementary school. His strength was
always in his academics. His popularity pretty much ended by the
fourth grade when sports became important in the social fabric
of the school. Because Adam wanted no part of sports, he hadn't
cultivated relationships with other boys, which come naturally
by being part of a team. If he were invited to parties, he now
started to show signs of being ill at ease and not being included
with the other boys. He just didn't seem to fit in because they
always gravitated toward sports related activities. Seeing our
son being treated as a social misfit was a painful thing to watch.
Because Adam was fortunate enough to have a wonderful fifth grade
teacher, his last year in elementary school was a pleasant one.
As parents, we were lulled into thinking that maybe things would
get back on track.
The beginning of middle school was filled with the usual feelings
of anxiety and hope for both Adam and us.
The seventh grade started out with some promise. At the local
fall fair, Adam was to meet a girl who was interested in him.
She was the daughter of the minister of a very large Baptist church.
I don't know how it is where you live, but we live in a small
southern town where having a minister's daughter interested in
your son makes you part of the royal family.
Their relationship consisted of talking at school and that was
it. The part that always confused me was that the kids called
it "going out" and that was the one thing that they never did.
Anyway, without much fanfare, the relationship was over with the
Royal family's Princess.
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