does being gay fit in God's plan? This is the hardest question
to discuss. The answer will depend on whom you are talking to.
In my church, which was Methodist, there was not much conversation
one way or the other of this subject. However, the evangelist
on television and in the media made it quite plain their opinion
of how God felt about homosexuality. Their message was not a loving
or healing one.
Before Adam came out to us, I didn't think a lot about homosexuality.
If someone had asked my opinion, I would have said that I did
not believe that God would turn His love from anyone - ever. I
also would have said that I did not believe anyone would choose
this way of life, which society has scorned and deemed morally
But let me tell you, when it is your child that is gay, everything
looks very different. Now it is personal. Now it is serious. This
is my son. I had to examine everything I believed in and everything
I had heard. I had to ask myself those painful questions that
you are asking yourself. Who really knows what is God's truth?
How can you be sure God loves your child?
Even though I wrestled with my thoughts and beliefs, I had a
very strong sense of God's love for my family and myself. It was
an inner sense. I could not explain why I felt that way other
than it was just a part of my being. I knew that He loved us without
conditions. I had to put aside the opinions of so many people
and remember the teachings of Jesus. Jesus is God at work in the
world. Jesus came to reach out to the outcast, to include them
and show them God's love. Jesus came to widen the circle, not