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We all have seen the acronym WWJD (" What would Jesus do?") This
is an important question. Ask yourself what would He do? Would
He accept your child? Would He reject your child? Would He try
to change your child? WWJD ... It was the answer to this question
that gave me the most comfort because I felt Jesus embracing my
family, assuring us of His love and our belonging as God's children.
That kept hope and peace in my life. I know He embraces your family
Although I am speaking from a Christian perspective, I have great
respect and admiration for people of different faiths. You do
not have to be a Christian to understand what I am saying -- that
a deep spiritual connection with God will help your family heal.
We know you feel desperate right now. So did we. You feel desperate
with fear for your child, yourself and everything you thought
you understood. So did we. The first advice I will give you is
to pray. Pray with all your heart - pray what is in your heart.
God will hear your prayers. Be open to the answer. Do not have
what you feel is the answer. God loves it most when we are lost.
He can direct us better when we do not think we know the way.
I prayed everyday over and over with a broken heart - "God please
direct our feet, we are lost." He did and He will for you if you
want Him to.
The second part of my advice would be to remember to love your
child and remember they are also lost. They need your love and
acceptance as much as you need God's. Give them that. You are
God's instrument for your child; He has entrusted you with them.
Sharing your pain with someone else is healing, but I have found
the subject of homosexuality is much different than most. You
know your friends. Decide carefully which ones will be supportive
and not judgmental. Educate yourself through books and other people
who have walked this path. Open your soul and pray the prayer
of your heart. Be open to His answer. It will come. In the meantime,
take your child in your arms and hug them. Isn't that what you
want God to do for you?
As mothers we tend to feel it is our fault that our kids turned
out gay. I know I felt that way for a long time. It certainly
was not my plan for Adam to be gay, but was it God's?
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