are we and why are we writing this? We are your neighbors. We
are the people in front of you in line at the grocery store; the
parents sitting on the bleachers behind you at the high school
football game; the parents sitting beside you at the PTO meeting,
the married couple praying next to you at church.
We live in a small southern town in Georgia. We've lived there
for 24 years, sixteen of them in the same house. We have strong
roots in our community; we know just about everyone who lives
Our lives are pretty much like yours: hectic mornings, making
lunches, carpooling to school and back, fitting in careers, and
rushing back home to prepare dinner.
This website is written by parents for parents. We are not ministers
or therapists with professional credentials to give you advice.
We are small-town American neighbors. We do not have a political
or cultural agenda. We are sharing our story in the hopes of providing
for you what we could not get for ourselves: Support, comfort
and understanding on a difficult issue.
When we finally came to terms with our son's sexuality, we vowed
that one day we would be strong enough to help others through
these dark days and they would not have to feel as alone and scared
as we did.
We have to admit something to you. There is only one aspect of
this website that seizes us with fear. It isn't that people will
know we have a son who is gay. It's that by publishing our real
names along with our pictures we run the risk of harassment, threats,
It wasn't until the last moment that we decided to use our names
and pictures. We decided to risk it because we felt the alternative
was worse; that by not revealing our names and faces we'd be perpetuating
the idea that having a gay child is something to be ashamed of.
We have created this website because we know what it feels like
to be utterly alone, hopeless and despairing. We know what it
feels like to have your family ripped apart by a child's revelation.
And mostly, we know what it's like to feel there's no one you
can talk to.
This website is our way of providing comfort to parents who feel
trapped, confused or despairing. We hope it provides some measure
of peace to you.
--- Patti & Jeff Ellis