What do you do if you child is gay? Did Your Child Come to You?
NAV Are these Questions Familiar? NAV
NAV Did Your Child Come Out to You? - Parents are never prepared to accept the news that their children are gay. I will never forget that Friday night in December of 1997. NAV
  Should I Accept My Child's Orientation? - For Patti and I, our first reaction was absolutely not. He is only 16 years old. What does he know about sexual relations? NAV
  Am I Ashamed of My Child or of Myself? - When Adam came out to us, shame was a big word in our lives. I was afraid that people would overlook Adam's wonderful qualities and focus on just one aspect of him ---- his sexual orientation. NAV
  Did My Parents Make Me Gay? - Yes, absolutely, my parents made me gay. They had sex, my mom got pregnant, and bam!...I popped out of the womb - brown hair, brown eyes, and gay! NAV
  Is Homosexuality a Sin? - When it comes to the subject of homosexuality, our religious institutions remind me of the Civil Rights Movement of the 60's. NAV
  Who Can I Talk to About This? - Take comfort, you are only lost for a little while. There is a light at the end of this long, lonely path. NAV
  What is God's Plan? - How does being gay fit in God's plan? This is the hardest question to discuss. The answer will depend on whom you are talking to. NAV
  Why Would My Child Choose to be Gay? - You have just asked an important question. Ironically, once you have exhausted all of the obvious possibilities, you will probably come to understand the absurdity of the question itself. NAV
Other Points of Interest
  Our Son's Story - Adam was always a bright and happy child. He was also quite stubborn. As his father, I always found that frustrating in one respect, but I also admired it.  
  Hope... How Our Family has Progressed - After learning that Adam was gay, Patti and I were devastated. Our response was typical. We prayed for a miracle.  


(-- Is My Child Gay or Confused?... CONTINUED --)

We finally found a psychologist, in a run-down old house, that we believed would agree with our medical assessment - confused but definitely not gay. Adam didn't like him but after just a few visits, it became clear to Patti and I this guy would, for the right amount of money, agree with any hypothesis we came up with.

That ended our search for a cure through psychiatry. We had heard of reparative therapy but I figured we could "fix" Adam the old fashion way - with a girl.

When he met Danielle, we felt if anyone could do it, she could. After a time, their love for each other became obvious. They spent a great deal of time with one another. We encouraged their relationship in every way we could. However, one night Adam came home late and finally confessed that his love for Danielle could not be stronger, but he just wasn't interested in her sexually.

As a father, that did it for me. I was crushed. If Danielle couldn't do it for him, he really was gay.

Through this experience, I was forced into a painful admission - when it comes to sexual orientation, you can rebuke and reproach it; you can revile and refute it; you can resist and repent of it; but you can't reverse it. It is there to stay.

St. Francis of Assisi's serenity prayer starts with the line "God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference."

This is the crossroad at which you now stand.